Dating gestures that impress women
It’s especially creepy when a guy does this when the car is already well in motion, as if something is about to happen that would make you consider jumping out of a moving car! The guy might know he’s a standup citizen, trying to protect you from all the creepers in the neighborhood, but he has to realize that if he just rolled up, you have no way of knowing he’s not trying to kidnap you.“I see you walking in this neighborhood every morning” or “I noticed you going to work down the street and I think you’re cute…” The guy thinks it’s romantic: all you can think is somebody who you never even noticed before has been watching you! You meet a guy at a bar, or on the beach, or in the grocery store, and give him your number. Not to ask you on a date, but just to say goodnight. But this is the age of technology—we all understand that people sometimes get urgent work calls at indecent hours.Going so far as to turn the phone over or off just makes a woman think her date has some other woman who might be texting. Going out of his way, to flag down the waitress and have her cancel the transaction you just put on your card while he was in the bathroom, or rushing up to the counter to pay for the pack of gum you’re buying yourself, when he was all the way across the store.Chivalry may not be dead, but sometimes it takes on the form of a stalker, or at the very least a creeper.Guys: we know you’re trying to be nice, but these gestures actually just send us running for the hills.If he knows the restaurant and what to order, this is sort of thoughtful, but a man should always ask first, “Hey, is it cool if I order for us?I know the menu really well.” Just diving into ordering for you, when you were clearly studying the menu yourself, screams CONTROL FREAK! If a guy you’ve only been on a couple of dates with does this, that’s just a forced date—now you have to have lunch with him, when maybe you’d planned on eating a sandwich over some spreadsheets.When you want to do something nice for your guy, you either have to do something “cool” (something he can still feel manly about accepting) or, you just have to blow him away so he’s too busy gushing to realize he let his guard down. No buddy of your boyfriend’s is going to tease him for this one: they’ll just be so jealous he gets to drink by a pool in Hawaii (or even a local resort if you can’t afford to fly somewhere).
Getting Ready for Your Date Dressing to Impress Ensuring the Date Goes Smoothly Community Q&A If you impress a girl on a date, you may get the chance to go out with her again!Not a little back rub while you’re watching TV, but a real massage.Rent a massage table or borrow one from a masseuse friend, dim the lights, get professional-grade oil and give your guy an hour to 90-minute massage. Trust us: every guy wishes his girlfriend would do this.Another thing you can do when your guy is having a rough day, is send him a photo of the ingredients for his favorite meal you’re making him for dinner, the lingerie you’ll be wearing, and the show in the background you’ve recorded for him.It’s just your way of showing that you care about motivating him when he’s feeling defeated.