Dutch dating customs
I found a website with all kinds of experiences of foreign students in the Netherlands. If you think you have not made a 'stellar' match then you are most likely dating a typical dutchie. And they are stubborn so it is hard to work out a relationship issue if it involves any type of confrontation or compromise. And bluntness is a typical Dutch attitude (which is good for relationships: wouldn't you rather someone told you the truth than skirted it for an entire relationship? Thanks for standing up for your fellow males from the other side of the (little) pond, Kwalijkje.
Expat forums are filled with questions and concerns on just how to infiltrate the local Dutch circles.
There is no chivalry towards a woman, in other words. They aren't romantic typically, though some can be a little.....those are the ones that have probably been outside the country or exposed to other nationalities though. You will also hear them say pretty blunt things to your face. This little subforum was intended for people who are actively studying Dutch on this forum and who would like to discuss their own experiences/frustrations/expectations regarding Dutch or Flemish culture (without having to practice their Dutch while doing so).
“Shallow Man, I’ve been dating a Dutch girl for 18 months now, my family likes her and I’m thinking of asking her to become my wife, I know that a lot of Dutch people just live together and don’t marry, but in my culture marriage is normal. ” As always, the Shallow Man is keen to fulfill the wishes of his readers, however, I’ve dated a few wonderful Dutch Antelopes in my time but, like an Amsterdammer stepping over the ever present amount of dog poo all over the pavements here, have successfully avoided getting married.
A common complaint among fellow expats is how difficult it is for them to actually make friends with Dutch people.
Who wouldn’t want to be friends with these tall gorgeous happy blonde beauties with flawless biking skills?